There seems to be an ever growing number of married people having affairs these days. Maybe it is because more of us are buying into the concept that monogamy is unnatural. Maybe it is because more of us want happiness at all times no matter what we have to do to get it. Maybe we’re just all more connected and hear about it more often.
Whatever the reason, the perception is that more people than ever are cheating. Whether it is more than before remains to be seen. What isn’t different is the fact that just about no one who cheats wants to get caught. We all want to get away with it. I’m sure there are ways to romanticize the whole thing so that it seems like something more, but the bare fact is if we are cheating, we don’t want to get caught.
There are lots of little tips and tricks to help you achieve this double life successfully. Just making sure you don’t do any of the telltale things most cheaters do will help you out a lot. Don’t bring your affair to your own home. Don’t pay for any affair related expenses with credit cards. Don’t shower as soon as you get home. Don’t send texts and emails if you don’t have to. Don’t be taking off at strange hours and for strange reasons. The list goes on, and all of these little tips will help.
But perhaps the safest way to have an affair without getting caught lies in who you choose to have the affair with. It is imperative that this person can be trusted to respect your marriage and home life. It is imperative that they realize they are second and your home life is first. It is imperative that they have just as much to lose as you do by getting caught.
You may already know the affair from earlier in your life and know their situation, which is good. But if there isn’t someone at the ready that you can trust, you may want to think about trying one of the married dating services that are becoming so popular. They will literally let you choose someone to have an affair with, from your area, who you find attractive, and who has as much to lose as you.
Having an affair can be dangerous business if not done properly. Stay safe, and be sure you pick the right person to share yourself with.